You were called to come and adjudicate between a couple. You quickly jumped into the fray to offer your judgment. Haaa!! Na wahala you dey look for oo!!
Marriage is a very complex affair where the definition of right and wrong is not universal. It is peculiar to the people involved because people marry for a variety of reasons. Some marry for love. Some marry because of beauty/good looks. Some marry because of wealth. Some marry because of “bedmatics”(silent!!!). Some marry just because they are getting older so they have to get themselves fixed anyhow. Some marry because of expected business deals. Some marry because of positions. Some marry because both parties are together in their religious faith. So many reasons I tell you. Do you know what? All of them are right because that was their source of happiness then. So how do you, who believe in love for example, advice people who didn’t marry for love?My advice: Let the couple settle their issues the way both deem fit. Cool temper ooo!!
There are so many things that you might not likely be informed by the feuding couples. They could hide intricate things that might be uncomfortable for your ears to deal with. However they are the only individuals who could solve those intricate issues. Yes, you can figure out all the psychological and sociological books. However, in a fast changing world where the definition of normal and abnormal is getting more blurred, caution should be your watch world.
In solving relationship issues, once no one is ready to let you know the hidden and sometimes dirty issues, then your saving grace must be your wisdom in making them solve their wahala. Most times it pays….Plenty problem dey o!!! Ewolewooo!!!